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4.5
content warnings: mentions of depression, anxiety, parental death by suicide, past sexual trauma, forced outing, and intimate photographs being shared without consent (taken from the content note in the book)
representation: black gay protagonist with anxiety, queer protagonist, interracial m/m relationship, black side characters, sapphic side character
Talia Hibbert is the best sexy romance writer to have ever lived, don't @ me you know I'm right.
This follows Olu, the brother of the protagonist of one of Talia Hibbert's previous books Undone By the Ex-Con, as he decides he needs to get away from it all and goes to a small village in the country. One of the people who lives in this village is Griff, a man who is somewhat of a pariah because of his sexuality as well as his mother's history. Angsty, sexy romance ensues.
I honestly loved everything about this. I haven't read any of the books in the Just For Him trilogy yet but this is definitely written to function as a stand-alone so that didn't ruin my reading experience at all. In fact, I fell so in love with every character in this book that I now need to go back and read the entire trilogy, and inevitably feel sad that there isn't enough Olu or Griff in it.
I would literally lay down my life for both Olu and Griff, along with most of the side characters. Olu's anxiety is explored in such a great and authentic way, and seeing how his anxiety and tragic past have tied themselves into his personality without ever being reduced to his entire personality. I have to be honest though, Griff was probably my favourite. He's a massive guy who is actually the sweetest person alive, and his hobbies include caring about people and making cordial for free.
Their relationship, as you can imagine based on my love for them as individual characters, was absolutely perfect. It has a rocky start because Olu has some issues from past relationships that he has to work through, but their development is so amazing and makes the lowkey slow-burn so worth it. Talia Hibbert writes such amazing banter and there was literally not a single scene with them that I didn't enjoy.
Idk, I feel like this review is kind of a mess, but in short I really loved this book and the fact that everybody in the entire world isn't reading Talia Hibbert feels like a personal attack.
I received an ARC of this book for free from the author in exchange for an honest review.
4.5
content warnings: mentions of depression, anxiety, parental death by suicide, past sexual trauma, forced outing, and intimate photographs being shared without consent (taken from the content note in the book)
representation: black gay protagonist with anxiety, queer protagonist, interracial m/m relationship, black side characters, sapphic side character
“But he’s smiling again, that faint curve. I want to reach out and trace it with my fingers, which is such an unfamiliar feeling that it shocks me. And then, a second later, it excites me—because that feeling constitutes desire, and it’s been a long, long time since I experienced anything like it. My odd reaction to him sparks a reckless sort of hope, a wild taste of possibility in my chest.”
Talia Hibbert is the best sexy romance writer to have ever lived, don't @ me you know I'm right.
This follows Olu, the brother of the protagonist of one of Talia Hibbert's previous books Undone By the Ex-Con, as he decides he needs to get away from it all and goes to a small village in the country. One of the people who lives in this village is Griff, a man who is somewhat of a pariah because of his sexuality as well as his mother's history. Angsty, sexy romance ensues.
I honestly loved everything about this. I haven't read any of the books in the Just For Him trilogy yet but this is definitely written to function as a stand-alone so that didn't ruin my reading experience at all. In fact, I fell so in love with every character in this book that I now need to go back and read the entire trilogy, and inevitably feel sad that there isn't enough Olu or Griff in it.
I would literally lay down my life for both Olu and Griff, along with most of the side characters. Olu's anxiety is explored in such a great and authentic way, and seeing how his anxiety and tragic past have tied themselves into his personality without ever being reduced to his entire personality. I have to be honest though, Griff was probably my favourite. He's a massive guy who is actually the sweetest person alive, and his hobbies include caring about people and making cordial for free.
Their relationship, as you can imagine based on my love for them as individual characters, was absolutely perfect. It has a rocky start because Olu has some issues from past relationships that he has to work through, but their development is so amazing and makes the lowkey slow-burn so worth it. Talia Hibbert writes such amazing banter and there was literally not a single scene with them that I didn't enjoy.
Idk, I feel like this review is kind of a mess, but in short I really loved this book and the fact that everybody in the entire world isn't reading Talia Hibbert feels like a personal attack.
I received an ARC of this book for free from the author in exchange for an honest review.
This is basically the ideal first book in a YA fantasy series. I adored the characters, with Tea becoming one of my new favourite protagonists, and the different relationships they have with each other. The world is absolutely fascinating and feels so lived in; I love that at the end of this first book, I feel comfortable with my understanding of the world but I also feel like there's so much to explore in the future. Rin Chupeco's writing is quite beautiful, and I think they structured this book brilliantly with the little future snippets from an unknown character's perspective at the end of each chapter. My only criticism is one that I have of almost every YA fantasy first book in a series, which is that the plot is somewhat lacking. The beginning was quite slow and it took a while for the book to start working for me. However, compared to most YA fantasy first book in a series, this suffers the least from this due to it's fantastic characters and world. The ending... MY GOD THE ENDING. It's what bumped this up from a 4 to a 4.5. What the ending means for the future of the series in terms of plot and more importantly romance make me want to start the sequel immediately. I've been meaning to read from Rin Chupeco for a long time and I'm so glad I've finally done it, because I can see them becoming a favourite author of mine and one of the few who can make me read fantasy.
As someone with a lot of siblings who I'm quite close with I'm always eager to read books with good sibling dynamics, and A Song Below Water might be one of the best. Even though Effie and Tavia share no blood relation, that doesn't diminish their bond and love for each other, and their relationship was easily my favourite part of this wonderful book.
I’ll admit, I was worried when I first started this book. A few chapters in I still wasn’t really feeling it, which was devastating because K. Ancrum is one of my favourite authors and The Weight of the Stars is my favourite book. But when Wendy’s adventure started, I began to fall into the rhythm of the book better and by around the halfway mark I was really enjoying myself. The last ~80 pages emotionally effected me in a way I wasn’t expecting considering how ambivalent I was feeling at the start, and the epilogue nearly had me in tears. This is certainly K. Ancrum’s weakest book, but she has set a ludicrously high bar for herself and it still ended up being wonderful.
content warnings: transphobia and homophobia (internalised and external), misgendering, body dysmorphia, use of the F-slur, suicidal ideation, suicide attempt (overdose), self-harm, violence, loss of a parent, abusive parent, alcoholism, depression
representation: transgender protagonist, Latina side character
I've been giving out a lot of four stars recently and while that's obviously great it did have me worrying that I would never read another book that I loved with every inch of my being - dramatic, yes, but I am prone to dramatics. Luckily, though, every time I think that I quickly find a book that I do love with every inch of my being.
I love Birthday with every inch of my being.
Meredith Russo's sophomore novel is set over the course of six years, always on the same date: best friends Eric and Morgan's birthday, every year from age thirteen until eighteen. The book follows them as they both come of age in a small town in Tennessee: Eric as he deals with his abusive father and slowly crumbling home life, and Morgan as she mourns her recently deceased mother and comes to terms with her being trans. They also begin to fall in love as the years pass.
When I finished reading the first hundred or so pages yesterday I updated saying that this was a book that was going to make me sob. I was kind of right. I didn't actually cry but only because I read the rest of this book on the bus and refuse to cry in public. If I were in the comfort of my own home I would have been bawling like a baby. In many ways, this is an incredibly painful book to read. These kids go through so fucking much over the course of their teen years and it's incredibly difficult to read, but don't fear: the ending is happy. It's more than happy, it's immensely satisfying and made me almost weep for joy.
Despite this ending, please take all the content warnings seriously because this book will be very triggering for some people. The F-slur is used frequently, Eric's dad is emotionally abusive, and one of the main character's attempts suicide, among other things. As happy as it ends, it's a difficult road to get there and I would advise that all readers proceed with caution. Even with how horrifying it can sometimes be, though, I also found this so easy to read. I read this in two days and it flew by; I honestly could've read another 300 pages and never gotten bored, but it's still the perfect length as it is.
I love both of these kids so much. I'm aware it's a little patronising for me, a nineteen year-old, to be calling two people who end the book at eighteen 'kids' but reading their story from age thirteen up really made me protective of them both, which is a large reason why the ending is so satisfying. I don't only love them, though, I also love their love. The subtle romance that develops between the two that then becomes all-consuming almost made me light-headed with how beautiful it was. There are so many lines from both of them that make me want to scream from a rooftop because of how much I love it.
This is kind of the perfect coming-of-age story, blending together every element perfectly. Family dynamics, romantic relationships, friendships, self discovery, triumphs and heartache, it's all there in equal measure and having equal importance.
As I write this, I'm realising how hard it is to articulate why I love it so much. I realised that this was a book that was going to be very special to me while reading a scene where someone's hair is cut, and yet I don't know why that was the scene. Was it the writing? The emotions? The action itself? Maybe all of them. All I know is that reading that scene nearly broke me and I don't know why, which is exactly how I would describe reading the whole book.
For a book that shares almost nothing of my life, I found the experience of reading it a deeply personal one. If you think you can handle the subject matter, please give this a go because it's one of the best books I've read in an incredibly long time.
representation: transgender protagonist, Latina side character
“Her eyes bore into me, and I realize the first song I ever write is going to be about her. Morgan Gardner deserves a song.”
I've been giving out a lot of four stars recently and while that's obviously great it did have me worrying that I would never read another book that I loved with every inch of my being - dramatic, yes, but I am prone to dramatics. Luckily, though, every time I think that I quickly find a book that I do love with every inch of my being.
I love Birthday with every inch of my being.
Meredith Russo's sophomore novel is set over the course of six years, always on the same date: best friends Eric and Morgan's birthday, every year from age thirteen until eighteen. The book follows them as they both come of age in a small town in Tennessee: Eric as he deals with his abusive father and slowly crumbling home life, and Morgan as she mourns her recently deceased mother and comes to terms with her being trans. They also begin to fall in love as the years pass.
When I finished reading the first hundred or so pages yesterday I updated saying that this was a book that was going to make me sob. I was kind of right. I didn't actually cry but only because I read the rest of this book on the bus and refuse to cry in public. If I were in the comfort of my own home I would have been bawling like a baby. In many ways, this is an incredibly painful book to read. These kids go through so fucking much over the course of their teen years and it's incredibly difficult to read, but don't fear: the ending is happy. It's more than happy, it's immensely satisfying and made me almost weep for joy.
Despite this ending, please take all the content warnings seriously because this book will be very triggering for some people. The F-slur is used frequently, Eric's dad is emotionally abusive, and one of the main character's attempts suicide, among other things. As happy as it ends, it's a difficult road to get there and I would advise that all readers proceed with caution. Even with how horrifying it can sometimes be, though, I also found this so easy to read. I read this in two days and it flew by; I honestly could've read another 300 pages and never gotten bored, but it's still the perfect length as it is.
I love both of these kids so much. I'm aware it's a little patronising for me, a nineteen year-old, to be calling two people who end the book at eighteen 'kids' but reading their story from age thirteen up really made me protective of them both, which is a large reason why the ending is so satisfying. I don't only love them, though, I also love their love. The subtle romance that develops between the two that then becomes all-consuming almost made me light-headed with how beautiful it was. There are so many lines from both of them that make me want to scream from a rooftop because of how much I love it.
This is kind of the perfect coming-of-age story, blending together every element perfectly. Family dynamics, romantic relationships, friendships, self discovery, triumphs and heartache, it's all there in equal measure and having equal importance.
As I write this, I'm realising how hard it is to articulate why I love it so much. I realised that this was a book that was going to be very special to me while reading a scene where someone's hair is cut, and yet I don't know why that was the scene. Was it the writing? The emotions? The action itself? Maybe all of them. All I know is that reading that scene nearly broke me and I don't know why, which is exactly how I would describe reading the whole book.
For a book that shares almost nothing of my life, I found the experience of reading it a deeply personal one. If you think you can handle the subject matter, please give this a go because it's one of the best books I've read in an incredibly long time.
After reading this I just do not have the energy to write a review, so I'm just gonna post the notes I made while listening to this. Spoilers for the entire book, but I wouldn't recommend you read this anyway so it doesn't matter.
✨ It's only the prologue and I'm already exhausted
✨ The first chapter is literally just his fucking backstory and exposition
✨ There could be something interesting in 'pop culture as religion', but I don't think it's gonna go anywhere
✨ So far, world building is hella underwhelming
✨ "Hey, Wade 3" is an insult???
✨ Your mum jokes?? Really??
✨ Ok, muting people is cool
✨ He's skilled at words?? Bitch where
✨ Why is he so weird? Because he's.... overweight? That's literally the only reason given
✨ ....... he just said noob, holy fuck
✨ Planets are also pretty cool
✨ Why in god's name would you want the dial-up sound
✨ The 'sucksers',, because they suck,,, holy fuck
✨ He just repeated that, like any gunter, he hates sixers
✨ I spy a manic pixie dream girl
✨ He saves all her pics because he's a stalker
✨ Oh my god, she's not like other girls
✨ "Don't call me shirley" makes no sense in this context
✨ Canon is being used stupidly
✨ I love that the only thing they've insulted so far is Ladyhawke
✨ "It's a chickflick" uggggghhhhhhh
✨ Sexism is fun
✨ The Spielberg reference made me laugh
✨ This book could be retitled "Gatekeeping pop culture things"
✨ Do they know what twink means
✨ Oh good, the f-slur
✨ Listening to them just saying random trivia about pop culture is exhausting
✨ This world could be so cool :/
✨ This guy is the woooooorst, jesus christ, even I'm not such a know it all
✨ No THANK YOU, I do not need to hear about Halliday's childhood
✨ Ofc his mum is bipolar, because that makes him Damaged rite
✨ The ENTIRETY of chapter 5 is just fucking exposition about Halliday
✨ Does Ernest Cline not understand how terrible info dumps are, jesus cHRIST
✨ God bless the fact that Wil Wheaton's good at narration, otherwise this would be so excruciatingly painful
✨ Chapter 5 is so disgustingly boring
✨ First of all, Orson Scott Card, really?? But also, every single author he just mentioned (20+ at least) is a man
✨ And all the directors are men and franchises have male leads
✨ I have not heard him mention a woman ANYWHERE, let alone a person of colour
✨ "aNd NoT jUsT hOlY gRaIl EiThErR" well good for fucking you
✨ OH MY GOD, all the video artists are men
✨ Oh look, women being mentioned. But they're cute girls playing ukuleles and he's only watching them because he thinks they're hot
✨ YES, PLOT, FINALLY
✨ "Jerking off to Ladyhawke", because god forbid we mention a Thing with women that doesn't have sexist undertones
✨ So, hang on, you only have one life before you go back to square one?? What gamer would do this
✨ Also he has literally no issues finding this thing, wtf, how is this exciting
✨ Bitch, you have no worth
✨ This is a battle and yet it's so boring
✨ "Elvish, created by J.R.R. Tolkein, for the Lord of the Rings trilogy" OKAY WE GET IT, YOU DON'T NEED TO EXPLAIN IT ALL
✨ What a stalker weirdo
✨ Noob has been used like 4 times. Ffs, this is 2044, not 2003
✨ I actually really like Art3mis and I hate myself for that
✨ Omg, he is literally just going to act out War Games, this is so stupid
✨ Fun fact, enjoying things does not mean knowing every single thing about them
✨ I stg, if I have to listen to this entire fucking film be acted out I will cut someone
✨ Are you telling me this bitch hasn't stayed awake for over 24 hours?? Seriously??
✨ The phrase 'geek girl' was just used and I want to die
✨ So, when there isn't a terrible info-dump, this is semi-entertaining
✨ Proof that this is written by an allocishet white man for other allocishet white men: multiple Revenge of the Nerds references
✨ The ableism is strong with this one
✨ IOI is a terrible villain
✨ I hate men
✨ As much as I'm not enjoying this, I gotta admit that Wil Wheaton is really good at narrating audiobooks
✨ I'm not an idiot, so I already know that he's not gonna work for IOI. Therefore, this entire boring-as-shit conversation is just painful
✨ "You and the other sucksers can fuck a duck" is the worst line in human history
✨ I'm sorry, is this meant to be intense bc I'm still bored and this dude is literally being threatened
✨ And just because IOI has a face now, doesn't mean they're not still a weak ass villain
✨ Bitch just killed Mrs. Gilmore, how fucking dare he, she was the only good character
✨ They're called the high five, really. jesus.....
✨ Japanese stereotypes, yay
✨ Sexism AND racism?? It's my lucky day
✨ "Ass-head" is a terrible insult
✨ Also, this guy is the wooorrrsssttt, can he pls stop being a stuck up little bitch
✨ The OASIS has existed for decades, but Wikipedia and Ebay still exist????
✨ Is Wade even trying to figure out the next clue bc it seems like he's just chilling
✨ Nothing? Is? Even? Happening? What? The? Fuck?
✨ Hang on, she doesn't want to be friends with him now
✨ The fact that the word flibbertigibbet keeps getting used is annoying
✨ SNL still exists??!!!??
✨ Wade doesn't think that Art3mis is a guy, wow, what a feminist
✨ He just admitted that he's a stalker and she's totally chill with it? Sure.
✨ I think this is meant to be cute banter but it's,,,, not
✨ "Are you a human female who has never had a sex change operation?" "I am, and always have been, a human female" wow transphobic much :/
✨ He's literally e-mailing her even though she very clearly doesn't want to e-mail him wtf
✨ Can we get back to the fucking contest
✨ Jfc idgaf about your stupid romance
✨ He just called her his girlfriend but I'm pretty sure they're not actually dating????
✨ So much time was just dedicated to explaining a show that wasn't even relevant
✨ He just mentioned Tyler Durden. I would bet my first born child that he didn't get fight club
✨ Did it ever occur to Wade that maybe she just doesn't like him much
✨ He's ignoring his friend to chill with a girl who doesn't even like him what the actual fuck
✨ CAN WE GET BACK TO THE HUNT PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOOOODDDDDD
✨ Aaaannnnd now they're dating, jfc
✨ They're performing Rocky Horror Picture Show, STOP RUINING THE THINGS I LOVE
✨ Kissing, great, this is exactly what I wanted from my sci-fi/dystopia adventure
✨ I
✨ It's only the prologue and I'm already exhausted
✨ The first chapter is literally just his fucking backstory and exposition
✨ There could be something interesting in 'pop culture as religion', but I don't think it's gonna go anywhere
✨ So far, world building is hella underwhelming
✨ "Hey, Wade 3" is an insult???
✨ Your mum jokes?? Really??
✨ Ok, muting people is cool
✨ He's skilled at words?? Bitch where
✨ Why is he so weird? Because he's.... overweight? That's literally the only reason given
✨ ....... he just said noob, holy fuck
✨ Planets are also pretty cool
✨ Why in god's name would you want the dial-up sound
✨ The 'sucksers',, because they suck,,, holy fuck
✨ He just repeated that, like any gunter, he hates sixers
✨ I spy a manic pixie dream girl
✨ He saves all her pics because he's a stalker
✨ Oh my god, she's not like other girls
✨ "Don't call me shirley" makes no sense in this context
✨ Canon is being used stupidly
✨ I love that the only thing they've insulted so far is Ladyhawke
✨ "It's a chickflick" uggggghhhhhhh
✨ Sexism is fun
✨ The Spielberg reference made me laugh
✨ This book could be retitled "Gatekeeping pop culture things"
✨ Do they know what twink means
✨ Oh good, the f-slur
✨ Listening to them just saying random trivia about pop culture is exhausting
✨ This world could be so cool :/
✨ This guy is the woooooorst, jesus christ, even I'm not such a know it all
✨ No THANK YOU, I do not need to hear about Halliday's childhood
✨ Ofc his mum is bipolar, because that makes him Damaged rite
✨ The ENTIRETY of chapter 5 is just fucking exposition about Halliday
✨ Does Ernest Cline not understand how terrible info dumps are, jesus cHRIST
✨ God bless the fact that Wil Wheaton's good at narration, otherwise this would be so excruciatingly painful
✨ Chapter 5 is so disgustingly boring
✨ First of all, Orson Scott Card, really?? But also, every single author he just mentioned (20+ at least) is a man
✨ And all the directors are men and franchises have male leads
✨ I have not heard him mention a woman ANYWHERE, let alone a person of colour
✨ "aNd NoT jUsT hOlY gRaIl EiThErR" well good for fucking you
✨ OH MY GOD, all the video artists are men
✨ Oh look, women being mentioned. But they're cute girls playing ukuleles and he's only watching them because he thinks they're hot
✨ YES, PLOT, FINALLY
✨ "Jerking off to Ladyhawke", because god forbid we mention a Thing with women that doesn't have sexist undertones
✨ So, hang on, you only have one life before you go back to square one?? What gamer would do this
✨ Also he has literally no issues finding this thing, wtf, how is this exciting
✨ Bitch, you have no worth
✨ This is a battle and yet it's so boring
✨ "Elvish, created by J.R.R. Tolkein, for the Lord of the Rings trilogy" OKAY WE GET IT, YOU DON'T NEED TO EXPLAIN IT ALL
✨ What a stalker weirdo
✨ Noob has been used like 4 times. Ffs, this is 2044, not 2003
✨ I actually really like Art3mis and I hate myself for that
✨ Omg, he is literally just going to act out War Games, this is so stupid
✨ Fun fact, enjoying things does not mean knowing every single thing about them
✨ I stg, if I have to listen to this entire fucking film be acted out I will cut someone
✨ Are you telling me this bitch hasn't stayed awake for over 24 hours?? Seriously??
✨ The phrase 'geek girl' was just used and I want to die
✨ So, when there isn't a terrible info-dump, this is semi-entertaining
✨ Proof that this is written by an allocishet white man for other allocishet white men: multiple Revenge of the Nerds references
✨ The ableism is strong with this one
✨ IOI is a terrible villain
✨ I hate men
✨ As much as I'm not enjoying this, I gotta admit that Wil Wheaton is really good at narrating audiobooks
✨ I'm not an idiot, so I already know that he's not gonna work for IOI. Therefore, this entire boring-as-shit conversation is just painful
✨ "You and the other sucksers can fuck a duck" is the worst line in human history
✨ I'm sorry, is this meant to be intense bc I'm still bored and this dude is literally being threatened
✨ And just because IOI has a face now, doesn't mean they're not still a weak ass villain
✨ Bitch just killed Mrs. Gilmore, how fucking dare he, she was the only good character
✨ They're called the high five, really. jesus.....
✨ Japanese stereotypes, yay
✨ Sexism AND racism?? It's my lucky day
✨ "Ass-head" is a terrible insult
✨ Also, this guy is the wooorrrsssttt, can he pls stop being a stuck up little bitch
✨ The OASIS has existed for decades, but Wikipedia and Ebay still exist????
✨ Is Wade even trying to figure out the next clue bc it seems like he's just chilling
✨ Nothing? Is? Even? Happening? What? The? Fuck?
✨ Hang on, she doesn't want to be friends with him now
✨ The fact that the word flibbertigibbet keeps getting used is annoying
✨ SNL still exists??!!!??
✨ Wade doesn't think that Art3mis is a guy, wow, what a feminist
✨ He just admitted that he's a stalker and she's totally chill with it? Sure.
✨ I think this is meant to be cute banter but it's,,,, not
✨ "Are you a human female who has never had a sex change operation?" "I am, and always have been, a human female" wow transphobic much :/
✨ He's literally e-mailing her even though she very clearly doesn't want to e-mail him wtf
✨ Can we get back to the fucking contest
✨ Jfc idgaf about your stupid romance
✨ He just called her his girlfriend but I'm pretty sure they're not actually dating????
✨ So much time was just dedicated to explaining a show that wasn't even relevant
✨ He just mentioned Tyler Durden. I would bet my first born child that he didn't get fight club
✨ Did it ever occur to Wade that maybe she just doesn't like him much
✨ He's ignoring his friend to chill with a girl who doesn't even like him what the actual fuck
✨ CAN WE GET BACK TO THE HUNT PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOOOODDDDDD
✨ Aaaannnnd now they're dating, jfc
✨ They're performing Rocky Horror Picture Show, STOP RUINING THE THINGS I LOVE
✨ Kissing, great, this is exactly what I wanted from my sci-fi/dystopia adventure
✨ I
Knowing that Confessions is considered better and even more fucked up than this is making me simultaneously more excited and terrified to finally read that.
content warnings: murder, violence, paedophilia, sexual assault, incest
content warnings: murder, violence, paedophilia, sexual assault, incest
1) Wicked Lovely ★★★★
Still absolutely loving this series. Keenan is the worst, I'm an Irial apologist, Seth is the only man who deserves rights and Leslie/Irial/Niall is one of the greatest relationships in fiction.
CW: rape, drug addiction, physical abuse and neglect from family members
Still absolutely loving this series. Keenan is the worst, I'm an Irial apologist, Seth is the only man who deserves rights and Leslie/Irial/Niall is one of the greatest relationships in fiction.
CW: rape, drug addiction, physical abuse and neglect from family members
