Idk there's something really Western and white and pink-washing about nonconsensually referring to your brown dad a "f*g" bc he hints at his sexuality in a way the author interprets as queer. Feels like even though they didn't mean it disrespectfully, it was a choice made in bad taste. For that and other reasons, I lost a lot of respect for Piepzna-Samarasinha as a writer even though a younger version of myself really enjoyed reading Care Work.