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Like Adiba Jagiridar's other books, it balances the tough issues it talks about well with levity. I do think the writing got a little repetitive at times, especially when it came to the judge's dialouge in the later part of the book. However, I had a lot of fun with this!
Graphic: Fatphobia, Racism
Parts of this made me feel like I have been rating most poetry I have read too highly because wow! Especially near the beginning of the collection, the ways that the words sounded were so evocative even before I registered what they all meant - on a sonic level.
It is also incredible and depressing how much of this still feels so relevant. Change the names of some technology and a few of the countries/cities and it's today...
Graphic: Child death, Racism, Violence, War
Graphic: Eating disorder, Mental illness
Each excerpt included looks at a different experience or viewpoint common in the "lesbian" Germanaic world at the time. I put lesbian in quotes here because the understanding of lesbianism in 1890 vs that of 1980 (when this was first published) vs that of 2025 are all quite different. For many at the time, "lesbian" was more about specific acts than an identity as we see now (though differences in how people understood this are evident in this, as one of the writings makes a distinction between bisexual and lesbianism that many in here did not). And a word that was used quite a lot was "Uranian", which may have originally have been used to refer to gay men, but quite a few people used it in these works to refer to gay women as well. Additionally, several people in this anthology saw themselves as third sex or primarily masculine, and there was even someone who emphanized their intellectual and spiritual connection with women while denying any physical intimacy. Lots of words could be used to describe the people in here. Might some of them consider themselves trans, nonbinary, or asexual had the language been available? Maybe, maybe not. One of the fascinating parts about queer history is this mix. We cannot properly detangle one part of the community from another, especially when looking back when our understanding of self was so different.
Another big thing that I pulled from this collection was just how similar some of the conversations they were having are to what would be talked about 50 or 100 years later. One of the big points of discussion was whether or not homosexuality is biologically innate (our "born this way" discourse, their discussion on Richard von Kraft-Ebbing) and the implications for policy -- a conversation that continues to be recreated. There is also a facet of what would decades later be refered to as policial lesbianism ("New Woman" then). There was also so much discussion of marriage that I could see playing out so similarly to what was said in the US even in the 80s. While there certainly was a contingency of people with internalized homophobia or ourity culture of the time, there was an insistence of pride and authentcity from others. Certainly there are stark differences in how we understand gender vs sexuality as well as some of the scientific conversation, specifics about marriage, not to mention the difference in what is a mature age. But much of these discussions were still remarkably familiar -- and opinions within the community were not (and continue to not be) a monolith
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Death, Homophobia, Sexism, Lesbophobia
Moderate: Chronic illness, Suicide
Looking though the other reviews, I saw that some took note of how this relates or could have been meditations that led to Conflict is Not Abuse. That makes me want to read that even more and come back to some of these novels again to look at the interpersonal issues and violence.
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Death, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Homophobia, Mental illness, Racial slurs, Rape, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Toxic friendship
Moderate: Vomit, Abortion
I could've done without the casual (uncritical) reference to Margaret Thatcher but it was a small encounter later in the book and not really overtly political (or as close to it as you can be while evoking a notorious politician in any context, but it was small in the scope of the rest of the book which was great overall)
Graphic: Mental illness, Medical content
Moderate: Cancer, Grief
Graphic: Ableism, Toxic relationship, Medical trauma
Moderate: Alcoholism, Physical abuse, Excrement, Abandonment
Graphic: Child abuse, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Transphobia, Police brutality, Antisemitism, Religious bigotry
Moderate: Death, Slavery, Abortion, Pregnancy
Minor: Cancer
Graphic: Fatphobia, Toxic relationship, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, Dysphoria