I wasn't in the mood for a self-help type book when my book club read this, but about 15 pages in I had to turn to my husband and say, "Ok, this is actually really, really interesting."

Stuff that provoked the most thought/discussion:

--We're "wired for story," so recognize that we're doing it. Use sh**y first drafts (SFD) when we feel angry/hurt/scared to work out whether we're telling ourselves stories that are true or that are just a self-protecting mechanism.

--Guilt and empathy vs shame

--Everyone is doing the best that they can.

--Setting boundaries