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I really enjoyed this book and found it to be very helpful. If you normally shy away from "Your best life now!" kinds of books, then don't be turned off by the title and give this book a shot. Morin is a therapist, and this book is totally coming from that point of view. She repeatedly says that being overly optimistic is just as detrimental as being unnecessarily pessimistic, and always stresses rational thinking above all. She also cautions that making lasting changes is hard work, and you should set yourself up for success by carefully planning a pathway to your goals.
Each chapter focuses on a different weakness--all of them are common, but probably you only have a few of them. Each chapter follows a pretty set formula: Morin tells a short story about a client who had a problem, how they worked together to figure out the problem, self-evaluation questions to see if you might have that problem too, the problems with having this problem (and what the root cause of it is), what will change in your life if you don't have this problem anymore, and some hands-on practical ideas to help you get stronger in this area.
The self-evaluation questions were really helpful because at first glance I thought, "I don't have this problem," but after listening to the questions I decided that it was an area I could work on.
It was also helpful to see the root causes of an issue, because it gave me more empathy for people that I recognized that have that problem. For example, feeling sorry for yourself comes from a lack of confidence in your ability to handle problems. So that shift in perspective can help me think, "That person isn't whining over nothing, they are expressing that they lack confidence."
The 13 chapters are:
- They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
- They don't give away their power.
- They don't shy away from change.
- They don't focus on what they cant control.
- They don't fear taking calculated risks.
- They don't dwell in the past.
- They don't make the same mistakes over and over.
- They don't resent other people's success.
- They don't give up after the first failure.
- They don't fear alone time.
- They don't expect the world to owe them anything.
- They don't expect immediate results.
Each chapter focuses on a different weakness--all of them are common, but probably you only have a few of them. Each chapter follows a pretty set formula: Morin tells a short story about a client who had a problem, how they worked together to figure out the problem, self-evaluation questions to see if you might have that problem too, the problems with having this problem (and what the root cause of it is), what will change in your life if you don't have this problem anymore, and some hands-on practical ideas to help you get stronger in this area.
The self-evaluation questions were really helpful because at first glance I thought, "I don't have this problem," but after listening to the questions I decided that it was an area I could work on.
It was also helpful to see the root causes of an issue, because it gave me more empathy for people that I recognized that have that problem. For example, feeling sorry for yourself comes from a lack of confidence in your ability to handle problems. So that shift in perspective can help me think, "That person isn't whining over nothing, they are expressing that they lack confidence."
The 13 chapters are:
- They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
- They don't give away their power.
- They don't shy away from change.
- They don't focus on what they cant control.
- They don't fear taking calculated risks.
- They don't dwell in the past.
- They don't make the same mistakes over and over.
- They don't resent other people's success.
- They don't give up after the first failure.
- They don't fear alone time.
- They don't expect the world to owe them anything.
- They don't expect immediate results.