Helping a friend read through some books.

This is a book I would recommend to a person in a situation where a discovery of , whether you are the partner or the one whose brain has been "on porn." This book is from a secular standpoint and provides lots of resources and first person accounts of people all over the map who have quit porn (men, women, married, dating, single, old, young, mostly straight but some gay) for the author's argument. Let me repeat - this book is not rooted in any kind of religion or morale-policing system. It is secular and scientific.

This book allowed me to be more compassionate towards my friend's partner and gave my friend hope that this addiction (which is a tough thing to define - he addresses this some in the book, and I'd love to learn more) can be reversed. The author talks about several studies and explains why this particular issue (is pornography addictive) is so hard to research. He dives into many of the studies that have been done into pretty good detail. I admit that I don't know a ton about these studies, but it sounded to me like he knew his stuff.

Towards the end, he talks about a particular researcher who has made the news about pornography NOT being addictive, and I'd like to look more into these arguments.

Mostly, this book is rooted in hope that the more we are learning about addiction and how it works (especially internet and pornography) the more hope we have in the neuroplasticity of the brain and that new connections can be made, and that the symptoms that men and women face when overusing CAN be erased.