Adichie always manages to say a lot with so little. She is a gift. Here I can only collect pieces of her brilliance that speak to me.

"Do not measure [your daughter] on a scale of what a girl should be. Measure her on a scale of being the best version of herself."

"Teach [your daughter] to question men who can have empathy for women only if they see them as relational rather than as individual equal humans. Men who, when discussing rape, will always say something like 'if it were my daughter or wife or sister.' Yet men do not need to imagine a male victim of crime as a brother or son in order to feel empathy."

"Teach [your daughter] to reject likeability ... Many girls think of the 'feelings' of those who are hurting them. This is the catastrophic consequence of likeability."

"Don't think that raising [your daughter] feminist means forcing her to reject femininity. Feminism and femininity are not mutually exclusive."

"Teach [your daughter] that to love she must give of herself emotionally but she must also expect to be given."