I have mixed feeling about this one. It came very highly recommended by the speaker at the group boudoir shoot I did in February. And the speaker said how this book helped her love herself. 

I was on the Libby wait list for 2 months before this popped up and derailed my Last, Now, Next plans. I just knew it was going to be good. Especially coming off the high from Hood Feminism I was excited to jump into more educational and empowering rhetoric. 

Don't get me wrong this book was informative AF. The author speaks about love being more than just a feeling but an intentional act that one chooses to participate in. She examines childhoods, parental issues, and how unfair it is to expect a partner that loves us flaws and all when we tear ourselves down and don't give ourselves the love we deserve despite said flaws. 

It made me think of the saying "Do as I Say, Not as I Do" 

Anyways feel like I learned a lot but it was not an enjoyable read. I struggle with non-fiction books when they are clinical, and this one felt very clinical. Despite her references to Lil Kim and other relatable persons and circumstances. I lacked excitement. 

But again, it was informative, and I feel like I benefited from reading it. It has helped change and validate my perspective on love. Not just romantic love, but platonic and familiar love as well. 

I would recommend this book with the warning that you may feel like you are reading a textbook. But in the end you will be better for reading it.