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I used to browse the sub-reddit r/Asexualpartners a lot when I just started dating my asexual wife. That place is a WASTE LAND. I want to throw this book at every single one of those users in that sub-reddit. A lot of the repulsive stereotypes I found in this books are things I have seen in that reddit forum. Things like "maintenance sex" and the ace person in the relationship needing to find a solution to their ace-ness. This book explains those stereotypes (and more that I learned!) and why they exist and why maybe they are wrong. I do live in an East Coast Liberal Bubble ™ and I think I just was not aware of the rest of the world's view on asexuality. One of the only thinks I found really frustrating about this book is that most of the successful allo/ace relationship examples in the book are open relationships. I know this book isn't "Handbook for the Successful Allo/Ace Coupling" but I think the lack of other allo/ace dynamics gives the false perception that an open relationship is the only path to success. Besides that I think this book is a great starting point for allosexuals to understand asexuality. It even helped me to understand my own sexuality as a bisexual. The quote about sexual attraction being "horniness with a target" is honestly brilliant.