"There is no doubt that love can change us deeply. Love is dangerous and full of liberatory potential because of the ways it can shake us loose from what we are doing, can help us desire new horizons, and shift to meet them. How do you want to be changed by love? What about you and your life do you want to protect from being lost or changed by love?"

A beautiful and easy read about all kinds of relationships and the ways we need each other to survive. I especially appreciated the wrap-ups at the end of each chapter and the way Spade brought each point home with questions and engagement work. Not all of it was for me in my own love life, but all of it was for me as a community member.

"My greatest hope for everyone who reads this book is that, if you are not already involved, you will join the resistance. I hope you are part of groups working on destroying systems of domination, helping people survive the current crises, and preparing for the catastrophes that are coming. Now, as we face the collapse of consumer industrial society, we desperately need dense networks of support and care. We still depend on unjust systems for our basic needs and those systems are crumbling. More and more, we will be forced to rely on each other to get by.”