My hold was running out at the library, & tbh I don’t think it would ever be worth it to wait another 6-9 weeks for this as I did not like it. The author’s tone was weird — such a superiority complex; she is better than the others around her for not dancing at a crowded club during a pandemic, yet she’s in the crowded club in the first place. She’s literally traveling on airplanes & going to crowded clubs & bars, yet she draws the line at…dancing…? With the same people she’s been in the room with for over an hour? It just seems very hypocritical when she talks about anything involving the pandemic. She also seems quite judgmental when discussing the younger queer scene, thinly veiling her criticisms of their dress & behavior & culture by saying, “It’s so interesting to see how the generations change!” She chalks up centuries of queer nuance & experience by saying “All infighting is bad! We should unite as one!” Which is generally a true-ish statement, but as a cis & white queer, I think these words are generally quite invalidating. A large theme of the short portion of the book that I was able to stomach was, “Inclusion is great! Everyone is & should be invited!” Which is overall, again, a fine sentiment, but it very much rubbed me the wrong way. Gay men are constantly criticizing women for entering “their” spaces, they tell us we don’t belong, that we need to find our own place, they go so far as to verbally & physically attack us for taking up space; yet why are lesbian/queer women suddenly demonized for even expressing the desire for a space of our own? Again, it’s a very nuanced topic, but this  rubbed me weird. Idk. I  also realize that I’m probably giving up on it way too early to tell if it’ll change & I very well could enjoy it more if I were to continue reading. Who knows, I might pick this up again at a later date (I won’t), but for now the whole “woe is me because I couldn’t be openly queer as a youth, but I’m so much more educated & cultured than the young queers of the world, also discourse sucks but I’m going to ignore the fact that Black & brown lesbians & queer women exist & are so often excluded from queer circles” is getting old, & I’m only 23% of the way through. Not my thing, but I’m sure others will enjoy it.