I'm so glad Nefertiti shared her story so that other Black women who have adopted or want to adopt have a resource that speaks to their lives. I wish this book had been available when I was waiting to adopt because it offers a lot that is missing from the majority of adoption books aimed at White parents. I especially liked the interviews at the end of the book that share how different the adoption experience can be for everyone. I also really like how she called out the racist stereotypes of "Black welfare queens" and "crack babies" and how she addresses toxic masculinity.

The only parts I wish she had handled differently (which I know isn't possible because it's her truth) is her relationship with her son's birth family and that she kept his given name in some form. I'm a huge advocate for open adoption as long as it is safe and healthy for the child(ren), and obviously she did not feel that was the case for her son. That certainly is often true with adoption via foster care. However, I think it was wrong to cut all ties with his older siblings after just one visit. She had control over how often and how long they interacted, and I wish she had left that door open for at least a visit or two a year. I'm curious what her son thinks of her decision now that he's grown up.