I'm struggling with my thoughts on this because while I feel like it was at times a poignant, introspective memoir of a trans person there were some messages I didn't agree with in the book.

I felt like the author wanted this to both be a memoir relatable to trans people and also a "trans 101" for cis people. Maybe these two can coexist but I wish Coyote would have chosen a more clear route, either make a memoir/educational book for cis people or write a poignant trans memoir and limit your audience to only trans people, although the audience already is limited with this one.

I disliked some parts in this trying to educate cis people about trans people, particularly public bathrooms came up a lot, where I felt like the author was trying to get cis people to "accept" that trans people existed instead of doing the work to be an ally, but then would counteract these messages while describing their own trans experiences. I was confused on the intended audience and some of the takeaways, but still found parts relatable and sometimes amusing. The writing style wasn't so much my personal taste but still engaging and had moments of great authenticity that I really appreciated. Being as vulnerable about the trans experience as Coyote is in this book is an admirable thing, and I'm glad I can read books like this one even if I don't fully agree with everything in it.