This book was cowritten by a wife who has ADHD and her neurotypical husband.  And I really loved getting to see that dual perspective on how they both perceived events and ADHD challenges. The emphasis of their work together through their relationship is remember that it’s not a him versus her thing.  It’s a THEM versus ADHD thing.  Remembering that she wasn’t doing things because she didn’t care or was lazy (that is a bullshit word, BTW), or didn’t respect her partner.  

I can’t emphasize enough how helpful it was to read how she experienced a situation and then how he experienced it and how they eventually learned to manage frustrating and stressful circumstances with love and compassion.

The strength of Rox’s symptoms are much more intense than my wife’s, for which I am thankful, because Rox has had some really tough times.  But the takeaways still help.  

Read This If You - are in a relationship with a person who has ADHD and want to learn how to be a better supportive partner.  Need help figuring out how to talk about ADHD challenges.  I literally wrote down one particular phrase and asked my wife how they would feel if I said that instead of what I might otherwise say.