I can see why there are people that are enthousiastic about this book, and while I do think that the author said some interesting stuff that set my gears turning, but it was repetetive as can be, and it would have been a lot better if the examples he used weren't riddled with micro-aggressions (he'd probably find this part of the review excactly what is wrong with people, but so what).  

The examples he used include things such as him talking about how he "settled" with his wife and tells her she doesn't look good sometimes, about how much horrible shit he did when he was younger but "how much better" he is now, inserting islamaphobia, victim-blaming people in abusive situations, judging people based on stories he made up in his head (even though that goes against what he is writing about), disrespecting femininity and women in general, and more. 

I wouldn't recommend it to someone that wants to be changed by reading a self-help book or re-invent themselves (because that's not something that's feasable anyway in my opinion), or someone that is easily swayed by what people write. I've seen way too many people have problematic takeaways from this book. 

I'd personally only read it if you don't intend to take it too seriously, and I just wanna get some different thoughts to swirl around in your brain for a bit (if you got some extra time). And if you're willing to deal with the messed up examples he keeps on giving. 

Honestly, this whole thing could have been a blog or a single chapter in another book (without the examples and all the repeating there's not much left).