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2020: This book gets a big ol' YIKES from me. At the very least, I would highly recommend NOT reading this book in the middle of a pandemic when the job market is dismal, you're currently under-employed, you've had to move back in with your parents, you have a Master's degree and all the debt that goes along with it, and you're twenty-eight and currently unpartnered. This is NOT the book for you.
This book already feels outdated. Maybe it's because I'm reading it in a time that Dr. Jay never could have predicted, and one where her recommendation to take the job with more "social capital" feels very out of reach for most millennials and recent grads. But wasn't she writing this in the middle of a horrible recession? For being published in 2012, it really feels like it misses the mark of what real life was like for many twenty-somethings.
Dr. Jay gets very doom and gloom in regards to fertility options and having kids when you are past the age of 30. I hear her argument that it's harder to get pregnant as you get older, but I don't think the advice to have a baby NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE is really the best answer either. Also, not having kids is a very fine decision as well. Dr. Jay definitely presents this as a worst case scenario option, which it's definitely not.
On the one hand, I don't think that the advice that "things take time. You have to be willing to put in your 10,000 hours to feel more confident at work" is bad. I also don't think it's a terrible idea to encourage twenty-somethings to take more chances, and apply for jobs just slightly out of your comfort zone. I just think this could have been presented in a better fashion. She doesn't need to be so heavy-handed nor so "now or never" about everything. Perhaps because my front lobe is a little more developed, I'm able to reflect on my twenties and feel pretty good about them now.
What Dr. Jay wants you to walk away with from this book is "your twenties are important. Don't sit them out". What the big takeaway ends up being (especially if you happen to be past your twenties when you read this book) is "if you fuck up your twenties, you fuck up the rest of your life".
This book already feels outdated. Maybe it's because I'm reading it in a time that Dr. Jay never could have predicted, and one where her recommendation to take the job with more "social capital" feels very out of reach for most millennials and recent grads. But wasn't she writing this in the middle of a horrible recession? For being published in 2012, it really feels like it misses the mark of what real life was like for many twenty-somethings.
Dr. Jay gets very doom and gloom in regards to fertility options and having kids when you are past the age of 30. I hear her argument that it's harder to get pregnant as you get older, but I don't think the advice to have a baby NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE is really the best answer either. Also, not having kids is a very fine decision as well. Dr. Jay definitely presents this as a worst case scenario option, which it's definitely not.
On the one hand, I don't think that the advice that "things take time. You have to be willing to put in your 10,000 hours to feel more confident at work" is bad. I also don't think it's a terrible idea to encourage twenty-somethings to take more chances, and apply for jobs just slightly out of your comfort zone. I just think this could have been presented in a better fashion. She doesn't need to be so heavy-handed nor so "now or never" about everything. Perhaps because my front lobe is a little more developed, I'm able to reflect on my twenties and feel pretty good about them now.
What Dr. Jay wants you to walk away with from this book is "your twenties are important. Don't sit them out". What the big takeaway ends up being (especially if you happen to be past your twenties when you read this book) is "if you fuck up your twenties, you fuck up the rest of your life".