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With or Without You by Domenica Ruta
3.0

In this stunning memoir, Domenica Ruta describes in humorous but compelling detail the life she shared with her unusual family, including her remarried father, addict mother, and generally boisterous but dysfunctional extended family. Growing up as a social misfit, with the family to match, Domenica struggled to stay afloat, and eventually fell into the patterns demonstrated throughout her life. But over time, she becomes able to withdraw from those patterns and forge a better life for herself.

This memoir reads like a novel, and it’s incredibly beautifully written but astonishing to remember that it’s actually a memoir based on real events. I cannot imagine growing up in the conditions described and not ending up hating my entire family, and I admire the honesty and humor found within these pages. This book will not be for everyone, but should definitely appeal to those who are interested in family stories, including overcoming difficult family situations.