08/17/2016 UPDATED because it turns out I still have THOUGHTS:

When my friend lent me this book I asked if it was going to make me angry and she said no. My fuse must be shorter than hers, because it made me SO angry. I was ignorant to some of the ramifications of our current doctrine and practices when it comes to temple sealings. But after reading all the submitted stories from women and men it's hard to ignore the pain it causes many individuals, couples, and families.

In particular our policies can put young widows and their children (you know, the people the scriptures tell us to treat with extra care) in an awful position as women try to move forward and remarry within the faith. A widow must either attempt to cancel the sealing to her first spouse (and possible father of her children) or hope to marry a faithful LDS man who is ok with not being sealed to his wife and their children. Widowers, however, do not have to choose between their families. They are assured that they can have them all. It can be easy for us to say, "Well, I'm sure that stuff all gets sorted out up there," but these are issues that hurt families and limit choices now as well as make many people dread what might be waiting in heaven.

I wasn't sure how Carol Lynn Pearson could assert that we can just "get rid of polygamy" in a plausible or doable way, but she shared her vision and I think she's won me over to seeing how it could happen. She says, "This departure is inevitable, I believe . . . because polygamy bears bad fruit and has failed the test of Joseph's own words, of being 'virtuous, lovely, of good report and praiseworthy.' It has proved itself to be a destroyer."