Highly informative. While I, of course, don’t agree with Chen on everything and would have liked a more thorough consideration of racism in regards to sexual pressures and stereotypes, I learned so so much from this book. I’ve had the privilege of not having directly confront many of the topics, identities and struggles Chen discusses in this book, but not only did she bring forth concepts I wasn’t familiar with I’m eager to continue to learn more about, she showed just how relevant the concerns and critiques she has are relevant to allo people like myself. There’s so much I hope to take from this book, for myself and my relationships, in whatever form they may be. I enjoyed sitting uncomfortably in my own misconceptions and expectations to learn from Chen these last couple days.