2021: I loved this book and think it should be essential reading for anyone who either has a vagina or is having sex with someone who has a vagina.

The biggest two takeaways are repeated multiple times throughout the book, so here's your tl;dr - 1) everyone is made up of the same parts, organized in different ways (spoiler alert - you're normal. You look normal, and you feel just the same things that everyone else does). 2) sexual arousal is a dual control system - it has both a gas pedal and a brake. This honestly makes SO MUCH SENSE and provides a nice, clean quadrant to work through example issues.

The examples and personal stories that Nagoski combines her research are informative and instructive. I think my only criticism of this book is that it would have been nice to read it while in a relationship, to have a specific person to think of when imagining certain scenarios. However, I really enjoyed a feminist, female-focused approach to sex education, and on a much more advanced level than I received in high school.

Too much to ask all future guys who want to sleep with me to read this first?