You get what you pay for with the title, an excellent essay collection about rape in many facets. Abdulali was gang raped at 17 in India, and counter to the prevailing attitude she and her family never bought into the idea that she should be ashamed at a loss of her own honor as a result. She went on to write dissertations about rape, and work in rape crisis counselling. 30 years after it was published, her New York Times op-ed about her rape went viral following the high-profile rape and murder of another girl in India. Thrust unintentionally back into the spotlight of writing and talking about rape, Abdulali offers a graceful and nuanced view on rape culture and the survivor’s experience from her many years of thinking and research on the topic. This book is so insightful and much of what she discusses made a deep impact on me. Highly recommend.