When Ames gets his girlfriend/boss pregnant, he immediately falls into a gender identity crisis due to his past as a transwoman and his complicated relationship with his own masculinity, and what it means to be a 'father'. In an act of desperation, Ames ends up enlisting Reese - his ex girlfriend and also a transwoman - to join his family with Katherine, and become another mother to their child. The three have to figure out what their queer family will look like, and what it means for all of them while they also battle their own issues with family, and parenthood.

This book was well-written and I found the topic just really fascinating as it was explored throughout the book. It's one of the first books I've read that truly explored what it means to be a transwoman today, and not only that but just someone constantly battling with their own gender identity and queerness. And how that comes in a lot of different forms, and is a different experience for every single person.

I like how the idea of family was explored in this book, and how family is so much more than than poster family of a man, woman, baby and a dog with a white picket fence. It can mean a variety of different things from biological family to surrogate family among friends, mother-daughter relationships among transwomen and drag queen etc.

I don't think anyone was really likeable in this book but I don't think they were suppose to be anyway. Everyone was very human in a way, and Ames, Reese and Katherine were all f***ed up in their own ways from growing up in a body that you didn't want to be in, to dealing with racism and cultural identity as well as messed up relationships, divorces, abuse and miscarriage. I don't understand why Ames had brought in Reese before mentioning anything to Katherine, that was really weird but also showed how Ames thought of Reese in his own head too and I think the dynamic of their relationship was just intense and interesting and could probably have been another 400 pages on its own. I also really didn't like how Katherine kept throwing in the possibility of abortion into the mix like a grenade and a threat. It was done in a way that felt very emotionally manipulative.

I was disappointed that the book only spanned the first 12 weeks of pregnancy and I know the book ends on a bit of a quizzical note and I think each reader has to individually decide themselves what happens next but I was expecting to see the full 6-9 months of the pregnancy, and the relationship between the three parents, so when we didn't get that and we didn't get any scenes where they actually had to parent a real human baby and forget about their own selfishness for a time, I felt hard done by as this would have just been a great thing to see.

Overall, a good book and one that made me think a lot about and the first book in what i hope will be many I will read that really examines queer families and non-traditional families.