I'm recopying the ten theses from this book here:

"1. Reconciliation is God's gift to the world. Healing of the world's deep brokenness does not begin with us and our actions, but with God and God's gift of new creation.

2. Reconciliation is not a theory, achievement, technique, or event. It is a journey.

3. The end toward which the journey of reconciliation leads is the shalom of God's new creation - a future not yet fully realized, but holistic in its transformation of the personal, social, and structural dimensions of life.

4. The journey of reconciliation REQUIRES the discipline of lament (emphasis mine).

5. In a broken world, God is always planting seeds of hope, though often not in places we expect or even desire.

6. There is no reconciliation without memory, because there is no hope for a peaceful tomorrow that does not seriously engage both with the pain of the past and the call to forgive.

7. Reconciliation needs the church, but not as just another social agency or NGO.

8. The ministry of reconciliation requires and calls forth a specific type of leadership that is able to unite a deep vision with the concrete skills, virtues and habits necessary for the long and often lonesome journey of reconciliation.

9. There is no reconciliation without conversion, the constant journey with God into a future of new people and new loyalties.

10. Imagination and conversion are the very heart and soul of reconciliation."

This book changed my life. Highly, highly recommended.