4/19/25: 3.5 stars. LaPointe told some really interesting stories about things I've not thought about or heard about before. One in particular that stands out to me is how white-washed punk music and the riot grrrl scene was/is. Please forgive me if I have missed something while I read this or am just showing some white priveledge etc. here but, I felt like the victim theme was heavy-handed in this and it took away from the essays for me. Her experiences were 100% valid....but she also doesn't really took personal accountability for her choices either. For example, she shares a story about how she learns she prefers relationships with multiple people. When her spouse at the time doesn't want that kind of relationship, instead of recognizing that it would be a difficult thing for someone who prefers monogamy to be ok with their spouse having relationships with other people (aka: her choice/behavior hurt them), LaPointe paints the situation as her being a victim of colonization and the way colonization forces hetero-monogamous relationships. There were other examples like this but this stood out the most and it just kind of deflated some of her other more salient points/stories for me.