such a good and important book! if you have a loved one experiencing mental illness and/or incarceration, just be aware -- this is one of the most accurate descriptions of how traumatizing and awful that experience is. the way the author describes how helpless and silenced and violated we all feel is so spot-on, and it will break your heart all over again. but i am still very thankful to have read this book. and i hope it will make people more empathetic about what we and our loved ones endure.