Vera Blossom’s How to Fuck Like a Girl is a memoir that doesn’t ask for permission. It’s messy, sharp, and defiantly trans—an unflinching exploration of sex, gender, and survival that thrums with both pain and possibility. Through electrifying prose, Blossom maps the collision of desire and identity, documenting what it means to seek home in a world that refuses to make space for you.

Blossom’s writing crackles with urgency, oscillating between biting wit and raw vulnerability. She traces the ways transness complicates girlhood, the ways poverty shapes survival, and the ways sex becomes a means of self-definition, liberation, and sometimes, contradiction. For Blossom, sex is not just an act but an invocation—a spell cast, a threshold crossed, a battle waged. She sees it as a way into girlhood, a way out of it, a means of refusing its constraints altogether. And always, she remains keenly aware of the uneasy correlation between desirability and femininity, how trans women are forced to navigate a world that conflates womanhood with legibility, beauty with survival.

But this isn’t just a memoir about hardship. It’s also about the audacity of queer joy. Blossom is loud, celebratory, and unapologetically herself, rejecting respectability politics at every turn. She describes herself as an “effervescent, large and in charge Jungle Asian,” carving space for trans women of color in a world that erases them. Her words are brash, poetic, and sometimes dizzying—spinning through self-discovery, medical transition, and the tenuous, often exploitative economies that trans people must navigate to survive. She dissects passing, being clocked, and the impossibility of fitting into cisnormative standards when you’re also BIPOC, fat, disabled, or neurodivergent.

At its core, How to Fuck Like a Girl is about self-sovereignty. It’s about refusing to let the world dictate your worth. Blossom doesn’t write for cis readers seeking palatable trans narratives—she writes for trans women clawing their way toward something freer, messier, and real. With a voice that is as defiant as it is tender, Blossom lays bare the contradictions of trans womanhood, crafting a memoir that is as much a survival guide as it is a battle cry.

📖 Read this if you love: bold, unflinching memoirs and raw, poetic reflections on identity; books exploring the intersections of transness, survival, and desire; the works of Roxane Gay or Casey Plett.

🔑 Key Themes: Gender and Self-Discovery, Trans Survival and Agency, Desire and Femininity, Intersectionality and Identity, Empowerment through Subversion.