really am of two minds about this because like....... its a good book!! And while it meets like THE unchangeable Romance Criterion (HEA/HFN), and romance novels CAN obviously deal with heavy subjects........ this was not a romance. Maybe contemporary fiction with a romance subplot? For me theres a very specific feeling that comes w a romance novel (the feeling is "aaaaaaaaaaaa oh my godddddddddddd awwwwwww thats so- OH THATS SO CUUUUUUTE") and it just didn't give!! I'm sorry!! But it's a very good book!

Also I'm gonna do some vague trauma dumping behind the spoiler tag:

Helen Hoang giving her protagonist (undiagnosed) autism is just, like, her thing, but she did NOT need to give her the same relationship i have with my dad and then have him die in the exact same conditions as my grandma, which by the way are genetic, and might be how my dad goes in 20-30 (but hopefully way more) years. I think that was so uncalled for.