While I don't view grief as something we have to "give to God so He can trust us with more good stuff," this book really helped me deal with some grief I had over losing a baby at 6 weeks. While my child wasn't fully formed, it was my first pregnancy and it ended in devastation. In fact, tomorrow was my due date and finally picking up this book is helping me understand how horrific the past 8 months have been because of how I was handling my trauma. I don't think God sits back and waits for us to come to Him nor do I think that God is judging us by now we handle trauma and grief. I do think that, even though this book and I didn't line up on everything we believe about God, it helped me ask myself some questions about how I wanted and needed to move on. And that is so necessary. I love God and I know He is walking me through this. I appreciate this book confirming how my anxiety was sparked and took off like a wild fire after my pregnancy ended. Sometimes you just need to know you're not crazy... and not alone. Great read. Author with a great heart.