Good but basic advice to keep in mind when teaching and modeling how to treat others with dignity and respect. Too bad there is no society that has got this down.

1. Be a full person - have hobbies, work, interests etc outside of the home
2. Do it together - both father and mother sharing tasks equally. If one of you feels resentment, that's a sign that it isn't equal.
3. Gender roles are nonsense
4. Be wary of "feminism light" -- "He is the head but she is the neck" and similar things. If you wouldn't say the reverse, what are you actually saying?
5. Teach your child to read (read a lot, not only to be literate)-- pay them if necessary.
6. Question language -- what are the implications of calling your daughter princess (she needs to wait for men to be the active agents in her story)? Maybe think of a different honoring nickname. "She is a *lady* mechanic" etc
7. Don't treat marriage as an achievement. If your child wants to get married, that's great! But why do women go from Miss to Mrs but men go from Mr to... Mr?
8. Reject likeability -- cultivate kindness and respectfulness towards ALL.
9. Give your child a sense of identity -- what things are really great about your culture and family background?
10. Be deliberate about appearance -- femininity is not bad. Maybe dont worry so much about how their hair looks. Point out that beauty comes in all forms.
11. Question biology when used as a reason why -- men don't need to be praised for cooking. Cooking is a learned skill.
12. Start the conversation about sex early.
13. Romance will happen, so be on board.
14. When teaching about oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints. Saintliness is not a pre-req for dignitiy; that is, people who are unkind are still human.
15. Make difference ordinary. -- "I don't know why, but they just do it differently than our family."