I will be forever fascinated when authors pull back the curtains and allow readers a peek into their private and personal lived experiences.

This book explores the religious and cultural taboos, challenges, and fears of gay men of various brown backgrounds, many of which being first generation Americans shouldering the weight of expectations to be the perfect son expected to take full advantage of the opportunities not given to their parents. Often times said expectations included marrying a good woman and having kids.

The author sheds light on the intersectionality of being both brown and gay. He examined how being gay wasn't enough to be accepted in the queer community. How like any social structures you have to search for and find a community that specifically suites your needs.

Are you a Will or Jack? Do you wear your Pride Flag Proud or are you more of a conservative gay who prefers to keep your private life private at all costs?? How did one cope with being in the closet and/or coming out?

There were so many different things that caught my attention and really opened up social conversation. It reminded me of a scene from the movie Bros. In it, the male lead Bobby works for an LGBTQ non-profit and the various representatives from each subgroup are arguing who has it harder and wanting to be represented. As a spectator and straight woman this scene was only comical, however upon reading more LGBTQ memoirs and essays such as this book, I am quickly coming to the realization that the scene holds more truth than comedy and as an ally it went over my head.

Overall, this was enlightening and educational and provided new prospectives.