I loved this book. Part memoir, part investigation into queer life in red states. Great writing, great narration by the author in the audio version, lots of personal stories along with facts and figures. I was impressed by the scope of her vision as an author, which included queer life among Mormons in Utah, along the US-Mexico border, in the heartland, in the Deep South, etc. and a true diversity of race, class, and queer identity. I will say that the author seems to have a deep and unapologetic hatred of the large coastal liberal cities that some may find off putting. As someone in a long-term love-hate relationship with my own red state, I didn’t mind it.