i do not get the love or hype for this book.

not because it’s bad but because i don’t understand why it’s so overly praised and loved for basically being an erotica book with more literary writing then most other eroticas.

i was really disappointed because it didn’t do more.
it really was just this long winded story about a younger woman discovering and talking about her sex live.

i wanted more of the actual experience of this 23 year old, being in this unique and different experience of a not what is seen as a normal relationship - not only age wise as a younger woman with a man that (as the book stays) could be her father, but also in an open marriage relationship and a three person relationship.

but the rest of it all?
o didn’t see the unique thing about it.

while it might be true for some people to go through this almost bumbling awareness during their early twenties, i found a lot of those moments a bit too over the top and dragged into the extreme in some way.

why for example would a woman that talks about health on dates and notices guys her own age don’t enjoy that and because of that she doesn’t enjoy spending my time with them, would try going up a few years in age?
if she uses online dating anyways that should be dueable right?
couldn’t she just state she has health issues she talks about and that she prefers someone a few years older?
i have no idea never used a dating app so what do i know?

but if it’s normal for people to bumble through dating app dates that a very typical experience, right? so what the book shared isn’t anything new or exciting, different or unique?

and it if it’s not normal... i don’t get it?

i mean i don’t get it either way. all those moments of the book made no sense to me.


also i didn’t love that the book found it necessary to use overly obscene description and dirting up situations without reason.
and i don’t even mean that in the sexual way. why would it be necessary to describe a scene where they open a public storage locker and find a very dirty and smelly diaper... for no reason at all other then to have it be - i don’t know as a shock value?

i was missing the special little something and the beautiful story telling that so many people and book lists and prize lists(!) are raving about.

to me this is nothing more then another “fifty shades of grey” momentum, where one book from one genre that is not as often talked about because of a topic most people prefer not to talk about - in fifty shades it was the wipes and chains in this book it’s the three person relationship and open marriage.

it’s more of a “oh dear she went there” kind of thing i believe that makes those types of books popular, the moment where “proper ladies clutch their pearls but gossip about it” kind of thing.

which sounds really means and as if this book is horrible and not worth reading.

that’s not it.

it’s as good book.

but it’s just not this huge uniquely special must read thing overall - for me.

because other then the sexual explorations?
what does this book offer that’s so special?

again not trying no to be mean or saying the author didn’t deserve the attention or praise - i actually believe it’s pretty cool that the author gets so much praise for this story

but yet again i don’t see it personally.

not every book is for everyone.

and what i keep learning over and over and over again is that book on prize lists are more likely then not, not my kind of read.

maybe because i expect too much going in.
i want them to be this completely unique experience that leaves me speechless and not wanting to read for a few days because i am still savoring this book, or reread it right away because it was this special thing i can’t let go off

but sadly for 19 out of 20 book prize and “must read” books i read?
that’s not my experience at all.


for me this isn’t a must read and i would recommend it to anyone of they don’t specifically ask for a different sex heavy book.