3.5 stars really liked this book. I took away a star, due to the fact that there was no chapter or really any mention of fearful avoidant/ disorganized/anxious avoidant attachment style. While there was a chapter on the anxious/avoidant trap between 2 partners this didn’t really help anyone who experienced this all within themselves.

However, since this concerns a small proportion of the population, I think it’s a very good and useful book overall and I learned a lot. I would recommend to anyone who wants to be a better communicator and has struggled in the past with either anxiety about intimacy or tends to shut down at the first sign of closeness.