The politics of this book had me thinking it was written in the early 2000s. Despite being written in 2020 the author consistently paints (cis) women as not being as interested in sex, and (cis) men as being horned up sex freaks 24/7. She also fails to mention any kind of unconventional relationship behind single sentences that barely acknowledge their existence. Transgender people get one line in this book to my recollection.

Wise focuses on a theory about emotion/sexuality that is dangerously akin to the four humors, where you need to keep several different emotions in a certain balance to have a healthy sex life. While I think this is somewhat true/helpful, I think it's too simplified.

Overall, I'm very disappointed in this book.