Soooo... I wanted to love this, and I wanted it to answer perhaps more questions than any book can answer (I mean, how do you teach a two-year old boundaries without using the word "no"... hmm?), but while I loved the over-arching principle that discipline is an opportunity to develop or educate rather than restrict or "punish", there were too few examples for younger not-yet-conversational children, which is the stage I'm at and it's already proving a challenge. I also felt it fell into a lot of parenting/self-help book traps by 1) having a long-winded introduction about how much the book is going to help us (repeating this again and again) and 2) including too many way-too-convenient examples that I deemed a little unrealistic at best or manipulated/contrived at worst. That's not to say I don't believe the research and the message - I DO! Hence the 3 stars - but I feel it could have all been neatly summarised in a blog post, not a book...