4.5 stars
I have a love/hate relationship with Colleen Hoover's books. On the one hand, I find her books very quick and engrossing reads. Something about her writing is very accessible without being overly simplistic. I am compelled, even when I end up disliking the book itself. But I do find many of the relationships to be problematic, with shitty and abusive behaviors romanticized.

Before this, my most recent read of one of her books was It Ends With Us. Up to this point, I would have said it was my favorite of her books. It's a portrayal of an abusive relationship that felt very raw and authentic, and I really appreciate that the book didn't feel (to me, at least) like it was romanticizing abusive relationships, which is something I think some of her books have done in the past.

After reading All Your Perfects, I would have to say that it is probably my new favorite of her novels, although I don't think I'll ever be able to re-read it. Too much of this story just hit too close to home for me, and I found myself very emotional afterwards.

I would issue a trigger warning for anyone dealing with infertility. This book is not an easy read for anyone who has wanted to have a baby and has had a hard time making that happen.

I am lucky. I was fortunate enough to have a wonderful son almost 10 years ago, after 8 years of marriage. I always thought I would have several kids, but it wasn't in the cards. There are times I am really sad about that, because it wasn't my choice to only have one child. But I am so thankful every single moment for him and I understand that I am luckier than most people who struggle with fertility.

That being said, I related so much to Quinn and her desperation to be a mother. Especially trying to put up a brave face to people you encounter in your day-to-day lives. If I had ten dollars every time someone asked me an invasive question/comment about my fertility: "Why do you only have one child?" "Didn't you want more kids?" "Was your child an oops baby(as if the idea of choosing to have only one child instead of a boatload is somehow inexplicable)?" "You know, you should have your kids close together so they have a friend." "You're getting up there in age, if you're going to have more kids you should really start trying." "Have you had miscarriages?" "Do you think your weight has made it more difficult for you to conceive?" "Have you ever thought about adoption?" "Don't you like kids?" "It's really not fair to your son to not give him a brother or sister."
Really, it's awful. And most of this comes from people who aren't barely more than acquaintances. It's really the worst. And like I said, I was lucky enough to conceive and birth a healthy, wonderful person. All that to say, Quinn's story got to me. Her story could've easily been my story.

So there is an element in this book that I see referenced as the reason for most of the negative reviews of this book. That would be Graham's infidelity. Now, I'm not going to tell you that what he did was excusable. He kissed another woman, twice, and who knows if he would've admitted it if he hadn't been caught. I also hated his lame attempt to shift the blame off himself. In the end, he did take responsibility, but the way he tried to justify it was not okay.
That being said, while I don't like what he did, I can sort of understand it. There's no excuse for his actions, but there was a reason. I think that there is a differentiation between those two things. Quinn was struggling with depression and completely closing herself off to him, no matter what he did. So while I don't condone it, I see how it could happen. And I don't think it makes him the biggest dirt-bag on the planet...there are far worse behaviors in 'romance' novels (some by this same author) being glorified that are flat-out abusive.

I'd told myself that this was the last Colleen Hoover book I was going to read if I hated it. And I'm honestly not sure how I would feel about this book had it not struck so close to home for me. But it did, and I'm really thankful I read it.