I’ve followed Casey Tanner on social media for a while, so this book has naturally been one I’ve eyed intermittently since its release in May. A long, lone car ride was the perfect way for me to enjoy this book. Tanner questions the status quo about our relationship to our sexual selves (including gender identity and sexuality) and gently asks us to consider the intersection of our identities when thinking about our sexual selves. Tanner gives space to all identities and allows the reader to come to their own conclusions about navigating sex and relationships in a friendly and gracious way.

What I loved most about this book, aside from having the author as the narrator, is that Tanner speaks to the reader like a friend. There is literal aftercare built in at the end of every chapter, so readers have the chance to slow down, process what they’ve just read, and consider what they’ve learned about sex and themselves. (I missed out on this opportunity, personally, as I was driving while listening, but I hope to purchase a physical copy of this book to reread in the near future.) This was a deeply emotional read for me, even though I have only grown more comfortable in my own sexuality and identity in recent years. I truly love that there will always be fluid parts of myself that I am constantly able to discover and learn more about as change happens over time. I hope this book can be that comfort and support system for someone who is less sure about the role that sex and identity play in their life.