I like to pick up the occasional biography on someone I know next to nothing about, so I came to To Be A Gay Man without any prior affection for Young. Listening to his brave and candid voice in the audiobook, he definitely grew on me, and I found this read to be occasionally funny, and sometimes relatable- but ultimately, I found myself wondering who it was for, and what exactly Young was trying to say. At times, it seems like Young is trying to address fellow members of the LGBTQIA+ community who have suffered similar feelings of shame, and might be facing parallel mental health struggles– and then he'll turn around and define bisexuality. I didn’t get the feeling that a cishet reader would walk away from this read having learned to empathise with the struggles of the community, but I’m cheered to see some reviews from readers who have apparently had that experience. Ultimately, this just felt like a slightly meandering experience to me, though it was engaging enough, and like it could have benefitted from some further refinement.