Great memoir of Kobabe finding eir non-binary identity & Spivak pronouns. Answers the age old question of “why do we perform gender, anyway?” with a resounding “no”. The family relationships are very heartwarming. Maia’s chill parents once again makes me ask “why exactly do people hate hippies?”  Hating on hippies kind of seems like a handing a win to the BS-ers & advertisers who co-opted hippie lingo. Explores the idea of gender & what it means to be non-binary. The analogy of gender as a landscape with mountains & wild forests leading down to a seashore felt very Le Guin-ian. The art sometimes reminded me a little bit of Alison Bechdel’s. My only minor quibble is including Patricia Churchland’s idea about biologically male or biologically female brains suggests a biologically determinative view of gender, which feels to me a little like using biology to get permission to be queer, which we really shouldn’t have to do. Whatever the biological facts, why should gender identity or sexuality need a reason? Humans create the social constructs, we should do whatever we want with them. Maybe it's not for me to say. Anyway, it’s no wonder that the book-banners are trying to ban this book, because it is eye opening & will be a classic.