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This was a journey and it's hard to describe the emotions after reading. For me, it went from intense, reflection, intense, curious, and understanding.
Even though it shouldn't, reading it feels like an affront to parents who were doing their best and trying their hardest to get by. When reading it, I felt like I needed to defend my parents and my history. Understanding that various factors, such as poverty, their own traumas, life changing events were at play made me question if they were actually emotionally immature. It gets even more complicated when maybe one parent was. If anything this book taught me how hard it is to be a parent and working to make sure children feel emotionally safe can be hard thing when dealing with the other pressures of life.
Now that I said that, I can say I learned a lot about myself in this. I can see how childhood has affected certain behaviors that I didn't think about or consider. It was a lot to take in and I found myself self-reflecting in ways I haven't before. I appreciated that.
I feel like the people who could most benefit from this book are people who are about 10 or more years younger. Toward the end, when the book discusses how to deal with emotionally immature parent, I didn't have as much to relate to b/c my relationship changed and the parent who's living is warm and receptive. The tools provided are very important though. I plan to use them and was already using many of them.
It was also a bit weird b/c it doesn't discuss the intersections that might have caused the emotional loneliness as a kid, such as poverty, different identity groups, etc. It keeps it very simple. It recognizes that the parents might have had their issues they were working through, but now you as the reader are an adult that has to work in with these parameters. In some ways that's very helpful- call it out, move on, no judgements. On the other, it's a hard pill to swallow.
I would recommend to almost everyone my age. Again, not a read to the parents. Being a parent is difficult as hell. I have already recommended this to like three to four people.
Even though it shouldn't, reading it feels like an affront to parents who were doing their best and trying their hardest to get by. When reading it, I felt like I needed to defend my parents and my history. Understanding that various factors, such as poverty, their own traumas, life changing events were at play made me question if they were actually emotionally immature. It gets even more complicated when maybe one parent was. If anything this book taught me how hard it is to be a parent and working to make sure children feel emotionally safe can be hard thing when dealing with the other pressures of life.
Now that I said that, I can say I learned a lot about myself in this. I can see how childhood has affected certain behaviors that I didn't think about or consider. It was a lot to take in and I found myself self-reflecting in ways I haven't before. I appreciated that.
I feel like the people who could most benefit from this book are people who are about 10 or more years younger. Toward the end, when the book discusses how to deal with emotionally immature parent, I didn't have as much to relate to b/c my relationship changed and the parent who's living is warm and receptive. The tools provided are very important though. I plan to use them and was already using many of them.
It was also a bit weird b/c it doesn't discuss the intersections that might have caused the emotional loneliness as a kid, such as poverty, different identity groups, etc. It keeps it very simple. It recognizes that the parents might have had their issues they were working through, but now you as the reader are an adult that has to work in with these parameters. In some ways that's very helpful- call it out, move on, no judgements. On the other, it's a hard pill to swallow.
I would recommend to almost everyone my age. Again, not a read to the parents. Being a parent is difficult as hell. I have already recommended this to like three to four people.