This is a short and engaging work of nonfiction which examines the impacts of compulsive sexuality and sexual norms. Angela Chen interviewed hundreds of people who identify within the ace spectrum, from other writers and researchers to podcasters to college students. I was particularly glad to read the chapters digging into the intersection of asexuality with disability, and the intersection of asexuality with race. The end theme of the book is simple: all of us would be more free to pursue our genuine desires if we strip away the assumptions around sex and relationships, and decide what it is we actually want, even if that doesn't looks like what society expects.