** I will not be rating Non Fiction books as it is based on real events and real experiences.**

"I have been fat nearly my entire life. I will be fat forever. That doesn't mean I - or any of us - have to live in a fatphobic world." 

 

I am conflicted on how I feel about Weightless. I will never know what its like to be black and fat but I do have my own experiences of being a fat person.  There were times I found myself relating very. much to the feelings Dionne felt. I sensed myself nodding along agreeing with her statements. 

 

The only section that made me feel irky is one where she admits to having internalized fatphobia and will not date a plus size man. I am not sure exactly why this upset me. Could it be because I am married to a plus size man? Perhaps. In most things in life, I try to see from the other person's perspective and if as a female you have these fears, what makes you think men won't have the same? It just made me sad. Also if my friends ever made comments about my partner’s size, I would need to reevaluate those that I surround myself with. 

 

"Imagine a society full of free children who spend time exploring the magic of their existence rather than picking themselves apart." 

 

I have been very fortunate to not have been teased as much as others that I know. I did go through my share of bullying but from middle school on I was very lucky. I was very shocked to see the section that talks about how a baby, mere months old was advised that they were already overweight?!  It makes so so sad, angry and frustrated. Someone i know had told me about how their niece at the time was already not wanting to swim with friends and wear a bathing suit at 10 years old. Children should not have worry about that at that age (or any age). I know I definitely was aware of my size and the space I consumed. I wish I could remember more to know what I may have missed out on because of my size. 

 

"I realized that many people believe that fat girls are undeserving of fairy tales, of respect, of the invisibility afforded to bodies that are deemed "normal"." 

 

Dating was never something I even bothered trying in middle or high school. My crushes were simply crushes. I knew my size and however I looked just wasn't what the object of my affection wanted. Always admiring from the sideline and waiting my turn. I did have two relationships with males who did not go to my school and they were definitely a learning curve. My size was never an issue but I had been more in my head about it. But even as I got older and in my late teens into twenties, the attention of men was something I longed for. Even if they weren't matches for me, I craved that attention and I wanted that fairy tale. 

 

I thought Dionne's writing shined when she spoke very candid and openly about her struggle with finding proper care. Once again this made me so angry to read knowing how many lives were lost due to missed diagnosis’s and symptoms being written off due to size. She had been constantly advocating for herself but no one would listen. I couldn't even imagine what that must be like for her and for millions of others.