2020: I have been a fan of Sow & Friedman's podcast since its inception in 2014, so this book was RIGHT up my alley. I've seen a little bit of criticism circling around how indulgent the book is for fans of their podcast, which I can confirm is very true, but also, why are you not already a fan of their podcast?!

That being said, as a woman in her late twenties whose past decade has been defined by the women she's been friends with and not the men she's dated, this book was a true gift for me. I ended the book feeling similar to how I felt after finishing All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister (who happens to be a close friend of Sow's, which just makes this lady gang all the more inspirational).

This book did what I wanted Text Me When You Get Home to do (and even quotes its author, Kayleen Schaefer). Big Friendship takes some of the theory explored in TMWYGH and roots it in personal examples from each of the authors' lives. They discuss their difficulties in maintaining their intense level of communication after they move to different cities, what happens when white friends don't acknowledge subliminal racism, and how important it is to have multiple Big Friendships in your life.

The best part about this book is its ability to acknowledge when its authors fucked up. I wish all of the memoirs I read were half as honest as these two authors, because it's very encouraging and refreshing. These women are real, their gChats are relatable and horribly punctuated, and their struggles and complications are ones that are particularly accessible for friendships in 2020.