This was a disappointment for me. Too focussed on ‘recovery’ as if adhd ever disappears, scattered and pretty outdated in certain aspects.

I actually dnf-ed this one before deciding to give it another shot. I initially decided to end because in one of the first chapters it told me to follow the twelve steps of AA for adhd recovery and to ‘believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity’ - uh excuse me what. AD/HD is not insanity and has nothing to do with a ‘Power greater than myself’ it’s neurological?!

As this was mentioned as a good resource on AD/HD I decided to give it another shot. I could’ve spared myself the effort. This may have been a good resource twenty years ago, but it does not hold up - even with the updates.

The majority of the given strategies or bits of advice weren’t workable. Not everyone can just switch careers, or would be better off being a stay at home-mom... And can we stop telling people with AD/HD to ‘work’ on it? Yes, sometimes you might need certain strategies to cope because you struggle with certain aspects of society due to how your brain works, but ‘working’ on AD/HD or ‘recovery’ suggest that we can overcome it and it’s all bad. The authors do advocate acceptance and the fact that AD/HD also has its good sides, but the language in this book contradicted that at least once per page.

I also wonder whether anyone has ever explained what gender actually is to the authors... and confronted them with their ideas about the role of women, as well as their ideas about romantic relationships and having kids. (which both seem to be presented as something we all need to achieve ASAP)