Now that I'm aware of the existence of "wizards versus lesbians" (both the podcast and the microgenre), it's very difficult to miss.

I wish I remembered more of books one and two.

I keep putting Bennett and Wexler in conversation in my mind, mostly because of the queer protagonists and because I read them for the first time around the same time, and it's interesting because the prime relationships that turn the engine of both plot and story in Wexler's world is siblings, while, in Bennett's, it's parent/child. And you see that here as well.
It's a very weird series that is somehow simultaneously about empathy, the impossibility of grief, and "what if we lived in a simulation and then hacked the mainframe".
One day I'll reread it back to back and see what it's like that way.

(Also, I'm looking forward to some literature or DH student's dissertation on the acknowledgements section of books written in the first two years of the pandemic. There's so much there.)