4.5 I think. Poignant, insightful, lingering. A large portion of this book really dragged for me. I felt that the author could have been much more economical in word choice and less meandering. AND YET there were SO MANY passages that went right to the heart of family life, personal identity, complex relationships, and the religious experience with such heartbreaking accuracy that I couldn’t not love it. It is not a plot book, nor a page turner, or even one I found myself eager to pick up, but it slowly imbedded itself into my consciousness and even my dreams in a way few books do. 100% worth the read.